Single and banded...

There are a few things that I didn't expect to deal with when I got banded... things I just didn't think about. 

1. I'm a single girl... and I attend an LDS singles ward. (It is an awesome group of kids.) Well I'm not ready to share with them my journey using the lap-band, though I know most of them would be 100% supportive. The other night my new roommate Amber was moving in and a boy (for this post will be called JJ) helped her. Afterwards we went to dinner. Well I ordered the chicken salad and went about eating it like I always do. This salad is HUGE! So I only ate about 1/8 and was full. Well JJ decided to comment on how much I didn't eat... it was interesting, I didn't know what to say. Amber, the roommate, knows because I didn't want her to worry about what I was or wasn't eating. But I've never been in the position to have people analyze what I didn't eat. (I didn't get this size by not eating.)
2. People obsessing about you having a drink at dinner... case-in-point... I was asked multiple times at a BBQ if I needed a drink. Who knew people noticed? 
3. What does one eat at a BBQ? I usually try to make a lettuce wrap; once again, people comment about the lack of a bun! Come on, how do you expect a chubby to lose weight?
4. Dessert! Yes I would LOVE some, no, I'm not having any... i've got 85 pounds left to lose! :) Thanks though.

Do you think it is easier being married and banded or single? Pro's and Con's? 

~Rantings of a chubby single!